In response to "They are not bad in-laws"

'They are not bad in-laws' printed in The Hindu on Dec 4th 2011

The author is right when he says modernity seems to have resulted in loss of humility. The career oriented girls who are to get married find it very difficult to adjust. The very word ‘adjust’ sounds to them as oppression and patriarchy. I know of a modern educated woman with feminist ideals, who wants to break social norms for the sake of being a rebel. She wants an arrangement in which she and her husband will stay fifteen days a month in their in-laws place, shuttling between the two homes. All this for respecting the principle of equality. The lady also hates the idea that she should integrate herself into the family she will be marrying into. I am not sure if this is a reasonable expectation from a educated, modern, independent girl. Can this be called a modern outlook towards marriage? I don’t know.