October 14, 2012

Burfi - a strong mind and a clean heart


It is people like Shruti, who not only make their own lives but also others’ life miserable. These are the ones who cause pain to people around them. How irresponsible, how infidelic, fickle; people, especially some women can be. Being engaged to someone, Shruti did not have any compunctions playing around with a clean hearted Barfi. Are girls impaired when it comes to deciding what they want? Even after they decide on and settle things like engagement, marriage, are they un-trustable?

If Shruti did not have the courage, the standing up to the consequences quality in her, why should she even stoke hopes in Barfi. If someone does not have an independent mind of his/her own, if one can not control ones own life, one should not pretend to be so. They should not go around in society like educated, independent, individuals who are in control of their lives. People like her should not have to right to play around with their own lives, let alone others’.

Be that as it may, what this lady does after her marriage to Ranjit is recklessness of the highest order. The way she walks away when Ranjit tries to stop her, only goes to show how unsettled her mind was even after 6 yrs of marriage, and how spectacularly wrong decisions, women can make.
Shouldn’t there be a limit to impulsiveness; despite the chaos created in mind by the usually blamed fault of hormones.

What can one say of 6 yrs of marriage when Shruti’s mother herself had an infidelic mind even after decades of marriage? How shameless was the mother in going secretly to see the woodcutter even years and years after marriage. Seems like age has no bearing on a woman’s fickle mindedness. This can not be justified under the rubric of womanly, expressive, tender, understanding, matters of heart etc etc.Yes, matters of fidelity in a relationship are to be black or white. There should be no place for grey.

Crossing the lines of wrong decision making and bounds of morality, and even outdoing her mother, Shruti attempts to get back, or rather get in between Barfi and Jhilmil when the two souls were bonding up. Even a differently abled mind like Jhilmil could sense this and she decides to leave immediately. 

Shruti could neither belong to her husband, not to Barfi, not even be true to herself. Beings like these do not have to courage to talk to themselves, question their decisions, their morality, or face their own soul. They live half lives, inflicting suffering unto themselves and to those connected to them.

People like Barfi would still have no ill will for the likes of Shruti, but I have my sympathies for Barfi, Ranjit (Shruti’s husband), the woodcutter (Shruti’s mother’s barfi), and Shruti’s father.

Jhilmil did not have a normal mind, but she had a clean heart. Shruti had a normal mind but an unclean heart.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

These incidents of women infidelity are very few,when compared to men infidelity. Kindly look at the prostitute homes.Now answer to thyself how many men are indulged in these activities.
Its always easy to blame women. But before doing that do relate the incidents to the realistic world.
Before blaming others, kindly understand what circumstances they are facing and the intensity of pain they are living with.

Aditya said...

Who ever this anonymous is.

I am not speaking about prostitutes and whores or their customers here. That's not the blog about.

It is only about the characters in the movie Burfi and an attempt to relate it to our society.

Shruti was not a prostitute, nor she was facing any intense pain.

I do not understand how this comment is related to the my writeup.